lemme break this down for you:
femmephobia is indeed real. However, most dynamics of femmephobia affect people whose femme identities are policed most, like people of color and CAMAB people who identify as femme, though CAFAB people who identify as genderqueer and/or male and femme don’t exactly get it easy, either. Trouble is, most of the people talking about femmephobia aren’t the people whose femmeness is most policed, and when those femmes do, they often get talked over for not saying convenient things.
in other words, when you try to put up a session at a conference where white cis women are talking about “femme as gender identity”, STAHP.
in further other words, when you claim transphobia is inherently linked to femmephobia, and then completely erase that some trans women aren’t femme, STAHP.
also, this is your weekly reminder that no matter how hard you erase us, butch trans women still exist. hi!
YESSSS
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[SCREAMS FROM THE ROOFTOPS] PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS MATTER TOO
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Nothing makes me happier than some good natural light and a new palette of floss to pick out. #coloraddict
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watch me blog my way to a halfway coherent gender
I love this. Love, love, love, love, love this.
Most women detest their stomachs. Well, I don’t hate them, ladies. I find bellies cute.
They hug your organs, and are soft and warm. They are round and cuddly, and feel damn good to hug.
Most important of all: they are part of you.
And you, sweets, are beautiful.
(still learning how to embrace mine, though)
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Ernest Hemingway
the most truthful thing I have ever read.
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Only 8 days left to support Asexual Pride + Conference
AVEN is shaping up to have the biggest and best Pride ever. On Saturday we’ll have a full-fledged conference in Berkeley with the major leaders of the Ace Movement and a day full of workshops on everything from improving mental health services for aces to aces in popular television.
Then on Saturday, anyone who wants to will march in the parade! We’ll have art, t-shirts, flags and a great banner.
If we raise $1000 we can cover the cost of the conference and the march, including catering, t-shirts, and pride parade registration.
If we raise $2500 we can cover the conference and parade plus print out tons of stickers and pamphlets. The stickers will be for everyone at the conference and for us to hand out at the parade. The pamphlets will be for us to hand out to organizations that want to do ace visibility (we get requests for them all the time and our stock has run out.)
Anything else we raise will go to printing more materials and to covering server costs for 2013.
forever thinking I’m screwing up the order of the colors for the ace flag
I just want to hug everyone who feels like they let their parents down or like they’re useless or terrible or unwanted and say no, no, I’m proud of you, I understand, I’m so proud of you and your parents should be but I also know how you feel if they’re not and I know it hurts and you deserve better and I love you.
also gonna be honest, my mom’s probably real proud of you too
Is it weird that I’m not comfortable referring to myself as “a woman”, yet I often think of myself as “a girl” or “a lady”?
I mean that doesn’t make any damn sense but it’s where I’m at at times.
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