lemme break this down for you:
femmephobia is indeed real. However, most dynamics of femmephobia affect people whose femme identities are policed most, like people of color and CAMAB people who identify as femme, though CAFAB people who identify as genderqueer and/or male and femme don’t exactly get it easy, either. Trouble is, most of the people talking about femmephobia aren’t the people whose femmeness is most policed, and when those femmes do, they often get talked over for not saying convenient things.
in other words, when you try to put up a session at a conference where white cis women are talking about “femme as gender identity”, STAHP.
in further other words, when you claim transphobia is inherently linked to femmephobia, and then completely erase that some trans women aren’t femme, STAHP.
also, this is your weekly reminder that no matter how hard you erase us, butch trans women still exist. hi!
[SCREAMS FROM THE ROOFTOPS] PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS MATTER TOO
watch me blog my way to a halfway coherent gender
forever thinking I’m screwing up the order of the colors for the ace flag
I just want to hug everyone who feels like they let their parents down or like they’re useless or terrible or unwanted and say no, no, I’m proud of you, I understand, I’m so proud of you and your parents should be but I also know how you feel if they’re not and I know it hurts and you deserve better and I love you.
also gonna be honest, my mom’s probably real proud of you too
Is it weird that I’m not comfortable referring to myself as “a woman”, yet I often think of myself as “a girl” or “a lady”?
I mean that doesn’t make any damn sense but it’s where I’m at at times.